10 Ways to Dial It Down from America’s Founding CEO
When George Washington was a teenager, he both copied out by hand and tweaked 110 “rules of civility and decent behavior.” These rules had been compiled by Jesuits in late 16th century France and made the voyage across the Atlantic Ocean.
Manners were up in the air in this new world when Washington put quill to paper. You see, manners were designed for men of high standing, determined by birth. “Court”-liness literally referred to a king or nobleman’s court and how one should act in that context.
What was expected of most commoners was not really manners but deference. You can see this in some of the rules that Washington copied out.
For instance, rule 26 began, “In pulling off your hat to persons of distinction, as noblemen, justices, churchmen, and company, make a reverence bowing more or less according to the custom of the better bred…”
Manners for everyone
But you can also see a break from hard caste in the very next sentence with “but among your equals…” Washington would oversee the rise of a new nation in which most men were equals (with the unforgettable exception of slaves).
These new people believed that the democratization of power called for not less but more widespread observance of manners. Washington sought to model these manners in his life, on the battlefield, as a farmer-businessman, and as president.
10 rules plus one more
Many of Washington’s rules are still relevant today. For this issue on how to motivate your team in the workplace, I offer a curated list of 10 rules on how to behave that will help today’s leaders to command respect, capped off with a bonus rule that we all would do well to head.
- Every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present.
Show not yourself glad at the misfortune of another though he were your enemy.
Let your discourse with men of business be short and comprehensive.
When a man does all he can, though it succeed not well, blame not him that did it.
Be not hasty to believe flying reports to the disparagement of any.
Speak not injurious words neither in jest nor earnest; scoff at none although they give occasion.
Be not forward but friendly and courteous, the first to salute, hear, and answer; and be not pensive when it's a time to converse.
Detract not from others, neither be excessive in commanding.
When your superiors talk to anybody neither speak nor laugh.
Speak not evil of the absent, for it is unjust.
Bonus: Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience.
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